It was in 1980 in Nigeria that I learnt the deep meaning of the expression,”Dekh ke un-dith keeta”, which is part of the Sikh daily supplication (Ardas.) It is one of the highest ideals by any standard.The Sikhs repeat in their daily supplication (Ardas) by admiring those who see or witness an evil being done to them yet they turn their attention away from that evil/unfortunate incident.
There is a similar Biblical message advising us “Not to trespass against others, and forgive those who trespass against us.” In other words not to count the sins of others against us and respond equally in a revengeful spirit. – Quoted by Dr. IJ Singh, New York, USA.
The Gurbani teaches us:-
ਕਰਣ ਕਾਰਣ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੁ ਹੈ ਦੂਸਰ ਨਾਹੀ ਕੋਇ ॥ ਨਾਨਕ ਤਿਸੁ ਬਲਿਹਾਰਣੈ ਜਲਿ ਥਲਿ ਮਹੀਅਲਿ ਸੋਇ ॥੧॥(Raag Gaurhee Sukhmanee, M. 5. 276).
God alone is the Doer of deeds – there is no other at all.
O Nanak, I am a sacrifice to the One, who pervades the waters, the lands, the sky and all space. ||1||
A Nigerian Muslim Lady is behind my enlightening experience of the expression, “Dekh Ke Undith Keeta” which is part of Sikh daily Supplication (ARDAS). A brief story is given hereunder:-
Dr. Iyengar, a colleague of mine in the Science Faculty of Ahmadu Bello University (ABU) met with an accident in which a family of five while crossing a road outside the main Gate of Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria struck against his car while a speeding heavy truck was coming from the opposite side with full lights which blinded Dr. Iyengar who was driving with his wife in the car. As a result of impact two children died on the spot, mother, and two others were badly injured.The driver of the heavy truck fled away in the darkness. Dr. Iyengar stopped his car and while he and her wife were panicking a policeman appeared on the spot and he arranged injured and dead to be taken to the University hospital. The police arrested Dr. Iyengar. I had known Dr. Iyengar as a polite and decent person who never consumed alcohol and a careful experienced driver. Certainly he had no intention to harm or kill any one. This was to happen but it created a mystery!
After some days on receiving bail, as a courtesy, Dr. Iyengar wished to visit the other members of the victim’s family. But none of his close friends (north or south Indian Hindus) supported his idea and so none was willing to accompany him to the family who lived in a village near the university campus. Dr. Iyengar asked me and I told him that on the strength that you were not drunk driving and you had no enmity whatsoever against the victim’s family, I am inclined to go with you to visit the victim’s family. My wife was terribly upset that as a turbaned Sikh I will become their target because of my conspicuous appearance. She went on to say that they might forget Dr. Iyengar but the victims family and their other relatives could go after you.
We had daily Parkash of Guru Granth Sahib (GGS) in our house and used to read the GGS and pray for a while every day. I told her that it was not Dr. Iyengar who wanted this accident but this was to happen – but why did it happen? We did not know the answer?
I advised Dr. Iyengar to take along some rice, kasawa, sugar, oil and tin fish for the aggrieved family. After enquiring we reached the right house in the Samaru village. Some members spotted us and the ushered us into the house. Walking through several interconnected rooms we finally entered a room where the lady (lying) and two children were with bandaged legs and arms. We both were quite nervous that anything could happen to us. As we finished exchange of greetings and paying our condolences, we were served a soft drink each. We were not sure whether to drink or not? But somehow I took a sip and Dr. Iyengar followed me.
We told the family that we were sorry for what had happened. The lady in crutches wasted no time and in a brave tone told us “it was Allah’s Will that all this happened. We have no ill-will against Dr. Iyengar (pointing towards him) – it is Allah only who gives and takes away life”. The next day was fixed for hearing in the court and she added that they have no intention to pursue any case against Dr. Iyengar.
On hearing this I had tears flowing in my eyes to learn of such a strong faith and devotion in Allah from an ordinary Muslim lady. I was also ashamed that even on daily reading of Gurbani I had not developed such a strong faith in Waheguru/Allah. The following verses from Sukhmani Sahib sounded differently and clearly after that encounter:-
ਮਾਰੈ ਰਾਖੈ ਏਕੋ ਆਪਿ ॥ ਮਾਨੁਖ ਕੈ ਕਿਛੁ ਨਾਹੀ ਹਾਥਿ॥ (Raag Gauri M. 5, GGS. 281-4).
The One Lord Himself destroys and also preserves.
Nothing at all is in the hands of mortal beings.
ਤਿਸ ਕਾ ਹੁਕਮੁ ਬੂਝਿ ਸੁਖੁ ਹੋਇ ॥ਤਿਸ ਕਾ ਨਾਮੁ ਰਖੁ ਕੰਠਿ ਪਰੋਇ ॥
Understanding His Order, there is peace.
So take His Name, and wear it as your necklace.
– This Muslim family taught me the meaning of Gurbani more than any Teeka or Gyani or Parcharak/Preacher.
There was a change in my perception of Gurbani ever since – a great lesson from a Muslim Family for which I am grateful to them; and Dr. Iyengar for taking me along to witness such a blissful experience. The court case lasted for four months and finally Dr. Iyengar was cleared.
I do believe that there are good Muslims, Hindus, Christians, Jews, Buddhists and Sikhs…. in the wide world.
“Dekh ke undith keeta” – is a virtuous act though a very difficult one. Those who lost their loved ones in 1984, it is not easy for them to forget and brush aside their grief. However, we do remember those who are imbued with the spirit of forgiveness in our daily supplication (Ardas). I think it is time to give practical shape to our longing for fulfillment of “Dekh ke undith Keeta”.
As Gursikh of Gurbani, we should be guided by the message of Sabd Guru. All that happened in 1984 was as per the Divine Hukam (Waheguru ordained).
In the light of the Gurbani then how should we treat the saga of June and November 1984 (killing of thousands of innocent Sikhs) in which various parties (Sikh leadership, Government of the day and some hooligans) should share blame in any rational terms? It has both legal and spiritual dimensions. The legal part is for the security forces and law enforcement agencies to handle, whereas the spiritual side belongs to all of us those who profess Hinduism or Sikhism.
I think that the well meaning Sikhs and Hindus can bring about reconciliation between the two communities a lot better than politicians who have failed to do so far.
Although it is very hard for the families of those who lost their beloved ones to come to grip with the situation yet spiritually speaking the aggrieved parties should forgive the perpetrators of such heinous crimes to invite spiritual strength as a solace.
I would suggest that just like Guru Nanak Dev Ji himself went to Sajjan Thug, Haridwar and Kabba etc to show people the right paths; Guru Arjan Dev Ji and Guru Teg Bahadur ji sacrificed their lives for upholding unity and spiritual values. After all Guru Hargobind Sahib forgave Jahangir for inflicting such a cruel martyrdom on his father, Guru Arjan. There are other examples in Sikh history.
it is time to say a collective Ardas to Waheguru for the forgiveness of all those involved in killing of fellow human-beings. This will be in keeping with the highest Ideal and Spirit of Sikhi.
An Ardas could be suitably worded something like the following and published in media in Indian Dailies from Shiromani Gurduara Parbandhak Committee, Amritsar and Delhi Sikh Gurduara Management Committee, Delhi and Haryana Gurduara Management Committee etc :-
“May Waheguru forgive all those who somehow lost their sanity and became instrumental in killing of innocent people in 1984. Please give a sense of direction to those who became part of such criminal act and grant peace to them and their near and dear ones who have been suffering since and help restore sense of unity among fellow human-beings.”
I do hope such an initiative will bring solace to both the Communities in keeping with the message of true spirit of the Sanatan Dharma and Sikhi alike, which stand for FORGIVENESS.
It is well known that forgiveness removes unhealthy emotions that would otherwise cause harm & creates emotions with a wholesome effect. Kabir Ji and Guru Arjan Dev Ji advise as follows in Gurbani:-
ਕਬੀਰਾ ਜਹਾ ਗਿਆਨੁ ਤਹ ਧਰਮੁ ਹੈ ਜਹਾ ਝੂਠੁ ਤਹ ਪਾਪੁ ॥ (Salok Bhagat Kabir, GGS. 1372-15).
Kabeeraa Jehaa Giaan Theh Dhharam Hai Jehaa Jhooth Theh Paap ||
Kabeer, where there is spiritual wisdom, there is righteousness and Dharma. Where there is falsehood, there is sin.
ਜਹਾ ਲੋਭੁ ਤਹ ਕਾਲੁ ਹੈ ਜਹਾ ਖਿਮਾ ਤਹ ਆਪਿ ॥੧੫੫॥
Jehaa Lobh Theh Kaal Hai Jehaa Khimaa Theh Aap ||155||
Where there is greed, there is death. Where there is forgiveness, there is God Himself. ||155||
– ਜਬ ਧਾਰੈ ਕੋਊ ਬੈਰੀ ਮੀਤੁ ॥ਤਬ ਲਗੁ ਨਿਹਚਲੁ ਨਾਹੀ ਚੀਤੁ ॥(Raag Gauri Guru Arjan Dev Ji, GGS. 278-17).
Jab Dhhaarai Kooo Bairee Meeth ||Thab Lag Nihachal Naahee Cheeth ||
As long as he considers one an enemy, and another a friend, His/her mind shall not come to rest.
The various Hindu Organizations can also come up with some suitable gestures towards the Sikhs in general upholding their ancient Spiritual traditions of peace and reconciliation.
More input from members of Sikh Sangat is solicited to give further Gurmat directions.
Kirpal Singh
Wellington, New Zealand
kirpal2singh@yahoo.com